I Can Finally Breathe

leaving complimentarianism /Part 1

Above is an excerpt from my book that relates to this piece below!

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Ever since I left the complimentarian space, such a weight has lifted off me. I know this seems a little offensive, if you are still in that space but I assure you this is me just doing what I know. I tell the truth about my experiences and it helps me keep telling the truth in the future. I promise it’s not to make you irritated or be salacious for clicks. This is me taking up space with my story and you are welcome to take up space with yours.

I remember being SO afraid to tell anyone what I really thought about complimentarianism, because this is truly a main tennant in fundamental spaces. If you can not agree to “roles” and submission then you are an unruly and wild woman. Your husband can’t control you and he is unfit as a husband (and probably father). So the shunning begins. I have regrettably done this to others and SURPRISE! It was done to me. Eventually.

So for a while, I didn’t say anything that combative because staying in the community was more valuable than trying to find a community elsewhere. That’s the thing, you become so entrenched in the system, you don’t know how to get out. What will life be like on the outside?, will I be taken care of?, and there’s also the part where you did learn a lot and grow as a believer. As I type that, it sounds like It wasn’t all that bad.